After hours of stalking them on Facebook and then working on your first message to start the conversation, you have finally gathered the courage to ask them out on a date. The thought of meeting someone for the first time itself is scary, added to that you have to make an impression and build a connection. It can be nerve wrecking.
Nevertheless, there is nothing like the wait to meet your possible partner for the first time. The excitement; the anticipation; the nervousness can never be compared to anything. But, there is no harm to be a little prepared.
A series of questions can help you to continue your conversation smoothly and not lose interest. Here are ten questions which can help you the next time you look for an intriguing conversation to understand the other person better.
1. Who are the most important people in your life?
It’s not much of a question as an ice breaker question. Often you will hear them say parents or friends. It helps you understand that person’s relationship with the people they have been with since a long time
2. Do you consider yourself as an introvert or an extrovert?
Knowing whether a person is an introvert or an extrovert can help you understand their point of view better. For an extrovert, the first date wouldn’t be as difficult as it would be for an introvert since they love being around people.
3. Are you a morning person or a night person?
This helps to figure out if your schedule would match; whether you would end up having breakfast alone or together.
4. What makes you laugh?
It is said if you can make the other person laugh, half of the task is already done. It’s a helpful question to understand whether the person will want grand gestures from your end or a simple good morning text can help them smile.
5. Do you like coffee or tea?
Well, for having the breakfast together you need to know what will they prefer. How else will you know what to make for them.
6. What’s on your bucket list?
A person’s ambitions and dreams should always be motivated and you need to know their future goals and wishes to figure out what the person is deep within.
7. Are you a cat or a dog person?
If you plan on living together in the near future you need to have a clear thought about the pets. Many people have pet allergies. It’s better to know about it beforehand.
8. Do you like your job?
This question will help you figure out whether the other person is currently living a happy life or is just giving into the routine life without any interest in the work they waste their daily hours for.
9. What books have you been into recently?
It’s a polite way to ask whether the other person is into reading books or not. It’s always better if they read and if they do, ask them about their favourite books. The happiness on their face would tell you rest.
10. Are you looking for a relationship?
Don’t be afraid to ask if the other person is interested in a long time commitment or is just looking for a fling. Their answer will help you decide whether you want a second date or not.
Getting to know a person takes time. Its a slow process like peeling an onion; you get to know the person layer by layer. So, give it time and don’t try to ask too many questions and scare them off. Keep the conversation casual and funny. Make them feel comfortable and then hope for the magic to work.