1. Take your time.
A cuddle after sex should be lingering and sensual, not the kind of embrace that you would give to a team mate on the local football side, before running off to do something else on the daily itinerary. Rushing off just makes her think that you have no emotional connection with her, that she is less important than whatever else you have to do, and even that you’ve been thinking of that thing the whole time you’d been having sex. Put some time aside for her, and let her know she’s as special as you tell her she is.
2. Full contact.
A cuddle is more than a palm or forearm precariously balanced on one of her extremities. Make sure that it is delivered body to body, skin to skin, with as much contact between you both as possible – at least to begin with.
3. In the zone.
The post coital cuddle needs to carried out when it still is exactly that. Going to the bathroom first to wash up just pours cold water on the whole thing. Make sure the cuddle happens when you are still glowing and puffing from your recent endeavors.
4. Know when to stop.
As it says on the tin, cuddles are great after sex, but there is a time to stop, too. This is usually shortly after she falls asleep, so that she is allowed to take the maximum advantage from her rest, without you pinning her in one position, one which she probably doesn’t usually sleep in.
This is more of a preparation thing, and is as important to sex itself as it is to the post coital cuddle. Especially where armpits are concerned, make sure that they are clean and well-deodorized, because she may just end up during your embrace with her nose stuck somewhere in that vicinity. Less than desirable, if she encounters the kind of smell more at home in a safari park than in a bedroom.
6. Keep her cozy.
You may already have noticed, but women seem to have an almost pathological aversion to the cold. If you have feet or hands that have gotten a bit chilly along the way, then keep them off her, because that’s one part of your body she WON’T thank you for sharing!
7. Give her some space.
Not the relationship kind but the real, physical kind. Yes, a woman tends to be a lot smaller than a man, but the fact she is probably capable of perching on the edge of the bed doesn’t mean that she necessarily wishes to. Limit the sprawl, and share the bed evenly whilst committing to the cuddle.
8. Go easy on the ribs.
A cuddle is never any more than a gentle squeeze. Go easy on the amount of pressure you’re applying, and if you start to hear bones popping out of their joints, then you’re probably being a wee bit heavy handed! Likewise, don’t place all your body weight on her. She isn’t likely to appreciate being crushed, and even if taking some of the weight means that you yourself aren’t comfortable, then I have just three words of advice – suck it up! You are a man, aren’t you?
Make sure she has some, quite simply. Because she is most likely shorter than you, her face will probably end up somewhere in the vicinity of your shoulder and chest, where there are nook and crannies that almost seem to be designed to cut off her air supply. Take note of where her nose and mouth are, and make sure that she can easily draw breath while snuggled up against you.
10. Don’t be a slimer.
Drool is never attractive, so if you have a tendency to turn into a slimer in your sleep, then do make sure that your face is at least on a pillow before you go to sleep. On the opposite side of the coin, if she’s the one who’s been doing the drooling, then it might be the gentlemanly thing not to mention it.