If you ever have to take a decision on long distance love, are you willing to give it a chance?
Managing a long distance romance isn’t easy at all. And as much as you may want to hold on, sometimes it’s easier and less painful to let go.
If you and your lover have to stay separated for just a few months or even a year, it may be easy to hold on.
But if your lover has to relocate to a new state for an unknown period and there’s no way you can move too, well, you do have a few things to consider before making up your mind.
Things to know about long distance love
Long distance love can seem cute in the movies, and while a few lovers may find it easier to handle the distance, many fail miserably and end up hating each other.
So unless you’re really ready for some difficult and faraway loving and willing to give your relationship the test of time, put the relationship on hold and move on, at least until both of you can meet again.
Here are a few things you need to keep in mind while deciding on long distance love.
Are you ready for it? You’ll have your answer in a few minutes.
Relationships need a lot of effort
Most lovers take love and relationships for granted. But in reality, relationships do need commitment and a bit of work. Most of the time, chemistry in love and understanding makes things in love seem easier and happier.
But if you’re not having a great relationship that’s overflowing with love already, you may have to reconsider your decision on long distance love.
When you’re away from each other, it’s easier to have misunderstandings over the simplest of things like a phone call, scheduled visits or even a rumor. And the worst part is that either of you can’t do much to ease the tension because both of you are so far away. Take a chance on long distance love only if both of you are compatible, understanding and have the will to take this big a step.
Can you handle the freedom and the loneliness?
This is a big one in long distance love. When both of you live within the same area code, it’s easy to be with each other all the time. You get to watch new movies together, go out for dinners and party as a couple all night long.
And when one of you have to move away, either of you are going to have a difficult time idling time away on weekends. Even a few minutes in bored loneliness can feel like a lifetime. You can spend time with your friends, but it’s just not the same as being with someone you can flirt with or cuddle with.
While the new freedom of partial singledom can be exciting, especially when you have a lot of time to spend with new friends and meet new people, the loneliness can lead you to look for easy ways to bring back the excitement into your single life.
Can you trust your partner?
Learning to trust each other in a relationship is crucial in keeping long distance love alive. But do you really trust your attractive and outgoing partner? You know how easy is it to have a great time with someone else when you’re out with a ‘new friend’. Could your partner be up to something? Or could your partner lose interest in the relationship when they’re having so much fun hanging out with new friends?
The bottom line here is to ask yourself if you can completely trust your partner. If either of you can’t trust each other, perhaps long distance love isn’t for you.
It’s easy to get frustrated
Remember how easy it is to get upset with each other even during regular days? Long distance between each other can make it even worse.
First of all, there’s the fear and insecurity. Secondly, even the smallest of things like not answering the phone, going out more often or partying with new friends can lead to frustrations and confusion.
And the biggest bummer in long distance love, attractive new friends. It’s extremely easy for one partner to get jealous or angry when the other partner gets friendly with a few new attractive people. When new, mysterious friends start posting regular comments on facebook or start interrupting phone calls, it’s all the more reason to lose your cool.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder
Akon’s song ‘Lonely’ sucks, but it’s going to suck a lot more when you’re all alone and listening to it, knowing that your partner’s gone away for a long time.
The absence of your lover can make both of you miss each other a lot more, and even help both of you realize how much love means to both of you. As long as both of you take the effort to keep love alive, it’ll lead to a stronger and more fulfilled relationship when both of you get together again. Long distance love can actually be the biggest relationship test that can help both of you understand how much either of you mean to each other.