1. Figure out why you have a crush on them. You need to figure out why you like them. It could be that you’re just bored of your life right now and find this to be the thing that spices it up. I don’t know what the reason is, but I know that you do. You just now have to be honest with yourself – that is, if you actually want to get over your crush.
Being a best friend is a huge obligation. It isn’t just about lending an ear, but about being that one person who knows the nice things to say to your best friend to make them feel loved, less alone, and let them know that they are someone important to you and the world.
This isn’t even about them. This is about you. Whether they have multiple girlfriends isn’t your problem. Well, of course, it slightly is because you may be the side chick. The whole point is to find out so you can dump his ass.
These questions will provide you with serious, thoughtful insight into your partner’s inner workings, and will go a long way in determining if you are made for each other-or doomed to fail.
Sometimes, we fall in love with the idea of someone or love someone who we think is a certain way but really isn’t. So, it’s not that easy of a question to answer especially when two people are involved.
Our mothers always told us that we need to find ourselves a strong man. While some think about a physically strong man, your mom probably didn’t mean it like that. Okay, of course, she wanted you to be with a guy who has a little muscle, but she really wanted you to be a guy who’s mentally strong and independent.
Think of your ideal wife: are brains at the top of your list when you name her best qualities? Perhaps they should be. New research suggests that having a brainy bride may extend your life and ward off dementia. During a talk called Dementia: How Can We Protect Ourselves?, Professor Lawrence Whalley, emeritus professor of mental health in the College of Medicine and Life Sciences at the University of Aberdeen, said: “˜The thing a boy is never told he needs to do if he wants to live a longer life ““ but what he should do ““ is marry an intelligent woman. There is no better buffer (to dementia) than intelligence.”
Now, this doesn’t mean you need to dodge every question they ask, but there are some things you don’t have to talk about. It’s okay to leave a little mystery. If these secrets were things that happened in the past, you may not have to tell them. Of course, it depends what secrets we’re talking about.
Anxiety is natural when you fear losing something, but don’t let it overcome you and lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy, or, even worse, sabotage your new relationship. Take a breath, relax, and take it day by day. Stop thinking about where your relationship is going, and just enjoy the here and now no matter where it takes you.
1. Be genuine.
If you’re acting out and being obvious about the fact that you’re not at all like you sound, it’ll show. Be genuine and be honest. Nobody likes someone who is so obviously being fake. Have fun with the conversation, but don’t try to make a big scene about it.