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How to Get Someone to Text You First

Getting someone to text you first is not the same as getting someone to approach you at a bar. You can’t make googly eyes at them or smile subtly. You have to have a lot of patience and take a risk.

What risk? If you want to know how to get someone to text you first, you could end up waiting a long time, if not forever. Playing the waiting game doesn’t give you black and white answers. It leaves you waiting around. And although you are playing hard to get in a way, you are also driving yourself a little crazy.

But, with that being said, there are some ways to learn how to get someone to text you first.

1. Stay busy. The best way to keep yourself from texting someone first is to stay busy. I do not mean scroll through Instagram waiting for them to text. Go do something. Whether it be laundry, errands, or going out with friends, not thinking about them texting you first is the best start.

When you are out and about and not on your phone, waiting for that text will not only feel like it came faster, but it actually will. You know the saying, a watched pot never boils? The same goes for here. A watched phone never rings.

2. Post your best self online. You want to get this person’s attention without actually being direct with them. And you definitely want them to know how amazing you are without telling them. So, if you post the amazing things you’re doing and how bomb you look on Instagram, they will be reminded of all that indirectly.

If they are actually busy, they probably won’t be on social media to see your amazing posts, but if they are scrolling through their feed, a text should pop up soon.

3. Turn off notifications. In my experience, this is the best way to get someone to text you first. When you are talking to them, you usually respond pretty fast. And although there is nothing wrong with that, keeping them waiting a bit will make them hungrier for your attention. I know, it sounds bad, but it is just the way of the world.

So go to your texts and put that conversation on do not disturb or night mode or whatever your phone describes it as. This way the text will come through, but your phone won’t light up or buzz. This means you won’t see it until you pick up your phone and check. 

4. Leave your phone behind. The only way number three works is if you aren’t glued to your phone anyway. So leave it. I know going out without your phone is impossible, but if you are doing things around the house don’t keep it in your pocket.

Leave your phone in your bedroom while you’re making dinner, doing laundry, or what have you. And if you are out, keep it on silent. Put it in your purse or your shopping bag so you aren’t tempted to keep checking it.

5. Give up. I feel bad just blurting it out like that, but sometimes things are just not meant to be. If you always text someone first, then stop. And if they don’t reach out, they may just not be interested. Sure, they could be super busy. But you want someone that gives you at least the small amount of attention required to send a simple text.

When you are waiting for someone to text you first, an hour feels like days. But, sometimes they don’t realize they miss talking to you until days later. My best advice is to let them go. Sure, they may come back and text you first, but if you are still stuck on them, this will be a repeating cycle.

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