Are you one of those people who find themselves being taken for granted all the time?
You may be assertive and in control of your life.
But somewhere along the way, you start to realize that the people that love you are taking you and the things you do for them for granted almost all the time!
You may be loving and caring.
And you may go out of your way often to please your lover and pamper them.
But what do you do when your indulgences are taken for granted and turn into expectations?
1. You can’t say ‘no’. You have a very hard time declining something to people. You’d rather take on more commitments or responsibilities than utter the word ‘no’. You may think you’re being sweet, but your inability to say no will only make others take your sacrifices for granted, and hate you when you don’t help them again!
2. You’re predictable. Everyone around you, especially your loved ones, can totally predict your behavior. And since you’re so predictable, they subtly manipulate you and get you to do what they want. You may feel manipulated and used, but you feel helpless at the same time.
3. You’re too sweet. You’re a people pleaser, and you just can’t be rude to others. You convince yourself that you’re the sweet person in a bad world, but in reality, you may be the idealist idiot in a real world who’s too sweet and nice, and forces others to take you for granted even if they don’t realize it themselves.
4. You postpone decisions. You’d rather make excuses or postpone issues that bother you instead of dealing with it or concluding it immediately. You may think pushing decisions away is the easy way, but in fact, it’s the spineless way of dealing with your problems.
Your family, lover or friends who understand your inability to take tough decisions may abuse that side of you and make decisions on your behalf, and manipulate you into doing something you wouldn’t want to do because they know you can’t say no anyway!
5. You can’t confront people. If you feel like you’re being taken for granted, confront the issue. If you can’t confront the issue, you’d end up unhappy and fill your head with resentments and frustrations, which would eat you from the inside.
6. You’re scared. You’re scared of people who are loud, outspoken, bossy, and confrontational. You just can’t handle them and they stress you out emotionally. You’d rather accept what they say than ever go against them because you don’t believe you can handle them.
You may think it’s the best way to deal with rude people, but in reality, you’re setting yourself up to be used and taken for granted by these kinds of people for the rest of your life.
7. You lie to yourself. You lie to yourself and make excuses in your head when someone takes you for granted. You console yourself and tell yourself that the person probably took the right decision anyway and they’re not using you or taking you for granted.
You’re not happy doing what you’re doing for this person, but you console yourself with false words that you’re doing it out of free will and not out of this person’s manipulation.