The sweaty palms and nervous laugh – no, you’re not drunk, you’re just socially awkward. Don’t worry, we’re here to help you become less awkward.
You might not believe it, but you really can be less awkward- you’re not doomed to a life of social anxiety. Here are some tips for being a social butterfly.
1. Don’t go for body contact right away. If you’re not comfortable with giving hugs or shaking hands, then just don’t do it. Trying to force yourself to engage in body contact will show that you are nervous. And you want to look less awkward – not more!
2. Show up on time. If you’re going to a dinner party or event where there’s mostly people you don’t know, I suggest showing up on time. Most people will come in late, but it’s much easier to be introduced to people in the beginning of the party rather than when everyone has already met each other and have had a couple drinks.
If you arrive early, you’ll also get to choose where you’ll be sitting, which is much better than being squeezed in at the end of the table.
3. Keep your phone on you. I know I shouldn’t be encouraging technology when at social gatherings, but your phone may come in handy. If the party isn’t going well, rather than you just standing there alone, I recommend you going to talk to someone.
However, if you’re not in the mood, just take out your phone. It may help you get through an awkward and uncomfortable moment without you looking like you’re going through an awkward and uncomfortable moment.
4. Ask questions. If you’re not great at small talk, that’s okay, I’m not a fan of it either. If you have a tendency to babble on about something then let the other person talk.
It’s much easier to listen, and it doesn’t take as much energy. If someone is talking about their favorite video game, ask them, “What goes on in the game?” And there goes thirty minutes, just like that. Once you start becoming more comfortable, you can share your opinions and stories.
5. Keep on going. If you think you screwed up a conversation with someone, who cares? Don’t let that hold you back. You have to keep going if you want to be less awkward. Go find someone else to talk to or take a break for a bit. But whatever you do, don’t let it discourage you.