1. Know yourself.
This is easier said than done, but it’s something that you need to focus on before going into a relationship. Who are you? Before going into a relationship, you should have a good understanding of your emotions and sexuality. No one else is going to understand you the way you understand yourself. They may bring out certain emotions in you, but at the end of the day, you’re alone with your thoughts.
2. Don’t just do it for sex.
If you want to be in a relationship because of the sex, well, that’s not going to work. You need to want to be with them because you enjoy spending time with them and have an emotional connection with them. You don’t need to be in a relationship just for sex. Having sex with someone will not create a deep emotional connection, the connection that you’re looking for.
3. Be open to what you want.
If you’re talking to someone you’re interested in, and you want a relationship with them, tell them. You need to be open about what you want. If they only want something casual, understand that that’s not what you want. You have to be firm with yourself in terms of achieving your goals. Right now, your goal is a relationship, not something casual. Don’t lower your needs.
4. Make it a priority.
If you’re really wanting a relationship, you’re going to have to invest time and energy in finding someone to be with. This means you’ll need to go on dates, go out, talk to people. You know, make yourself available. This doesn’t mean you need to be desperate and constantly searching for love, but you need to change your lifestyle so that you can allow love to enter in it.
5. Be vulnerable.
Ah yes, vulnerability. If you want a relationship, you’re going to have to be vulnerable with that person. The only way to create intimacy and a deep connection are through vulnerability. This means you need to take down those walls of defense because they’re not helping anyone.