1. THEY DON’T REALLY LISTEN WHEN YOU TALK
When you’re talking to your date, pay attention to the quality of the conversation, particularly how much effort they’re making to get to know you and how willing they are to go beyond just surface-level small talk. If they are half-listening to what you say and may try to interrupt you by touching you or changing the subject, especially if the conversation veers into more emotionally vulnerable territory then this is a sign that they are not interested in anything beyond sex.
2. THEY TALK ABOUT SEX CONSTANTLY.
It’s not just about what your date won’t talk about, it’s also what they do have to say. If they only want to talk about sex, that’s because it’s what’s on their agenda. They talk about sex constantly and may send you constant texts throughout the day asking for naughty pictures or recounting anything physical you’ve already done.
3. THEY INVITE YOU TO THEIR PLACE FOR YOUR FIRST DATE.
Is their idea of a date just going to their place? If so, you should consider that an indication that they’re most likely just interested in hooking up, particularly if they ask you to come to their place for dates and seem put off when you decline.
4. THEY TOUCH YOU — A LOT.
One of the ways that your date will communicate that they just want sex is that they will touch you a lot. Physical body language is a great way to tell your date you’re ready for a kiss — sitting next to someone, touching their arm [or] hand, or holding eye contact all suggest you want to progress physically. When someone’s doing a lot of these, plus touching more intimate body parts like your legs or your face, it suggests your date is looking for something more sooner rather than later.
5. THEY’VE TOLD YOU THEY DON’T “DO” RELATIONSHIPS.
The clearest sign, however, is that they’ve told you they just want sex. They may not just come out and say it plainly, but if “they’ve told you they don’t do relationships,” that means they don’t do relationships. While it may not have been what you wanted to hear at the time, this is the time to listen, “because they were telling you the truth.” It may be tempting to just ignore it, but you need to resist that urge. Far too often we assume we can convert a player into relationship material ‘if they get to know us,’” but if they tell you from the start that this isn’t going to be a relationship, believe them.